Choosing Your Bridesmaids
Choosing bridesmaids and a maid of honor is one of the hardest things to do when planning your wedding. You’ll find that half the time the groom has a much easier time because frankly – most men just don’t care. When choosing from your long list of friends or short there are a few characteristics that you need to look for in a bridesmaid.
Dependability is the most important characteristic of the best bridesmaid. A bridesmaid or maid of honor who forgets to show up for fittings, ignores your phone calls, and drags on the planning process is more than likely not the best choice. You’re probably thinking, “Isn’t that obvious?” but think about the candidates in your life for a moment.
We all have friends who are close to us yet are careless and irresponsible. Do you want them involved in something as important as your wedding? Don’t worry though; those who have been there for you in the past and truly care about you will step up to help ensure that your wedding day is everything you imagined. Do your best to choose those that are reliable and play a big role in your life.
Be realistic and look into your past. As soon as the wedding is announced, relatives, old friends, and the like will come out of the woodwork to offer help, but not everyone will manage to follow through. Who came through for you before the wedding announcement? Who is closest to you now, and which of these women are most likely to be in your life in 10 years? Choose the ladies fitting this bill.
Unfortunately, many brides feel obligated to include family members in their bridal party because of tradition or pressure from family, but if they are not a part of your life, then maybe they have no place in your bridal party either. Be careful! There may be relatives who assume that they’re going to be in the wedding party and may feel stiffed without an invite. To save yourself some grief, it could be wise to give these relatives a more minor role in the wedding as an offering of appeasement. They could hand out wedding programs or bubbles or can oversee the wedding guest book at the reception.
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